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A chilly winter Sunday walk in Grange-over-Sands

Grange-over-Sands seen from a distance with a Victorian bench in the foreground.

On a chilly Sunday in February, we took a trip to Grange-over-Sands.

Like many coastal villages here in Cumbria, Grange started out as a fishing village but became a popular seaside resort after the railway was built in Victorian times.

While the village still has a lovely promenade along the seafront, the previous beaches have turned into saltmarshes, and Morecambe Bay has silted up substantially. Grange is perhaps not ideal for swimming anymore, but it is still worth a visit.

On earlier visits to Grange, we enjoyed feeding the ducks in the park next to the railway station.

The Grange-over-Sands park on a February Sunday.
The Grange-over-Sands park on a February Sunday.

This time, however, the seagulls outnumbered the ducks 10-to-1 and completely took over the show (and the food).

Seagulls demanding to be fed in the park in Grange.
Seagulls demanding to be fed in the park in Grange.

Despite the chilly weather, we saw some signs of a coming spring: snowdrops.

Snowdrops in Grange-over-Sands, February 2025.
Snowdrops in Grange-over-Sands, February 2025.

My strongest memory from Grange-over-Sands, however, is from a much hotter day. On the 7th of September 2021, I had visited my wife for the first time. Well, technically, we were married one year later. But we first got to know each other online in the summer of 2020. At the beginning of September 2021, I had finally had 2 Covid jabs and could travel without being quarantined. So, I decided to visit.

A short visit. Too short. Few things have hurt more than leaving Grange-over-Sands railway station on the 7th of September 2021. It hurt so much that it was apparent we had to ensure departures and separation wouldn’t be a part of our lives in the future. And so it came to pass.

About to leave from Grange-over-Sands on the 7th of September 2021.
Tom about to leave from Grange-over-Sands on the 7th of September 2021.
Tom Antonsen in exercise outfit in front of trees with autumn colours

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